Have a gone too far?

[mimitabby]

Interesting theme here.
Stuff. We love our stuff. but we only have so much room... and finances.
When we die we leave it all behind, so why wait, maybe someone else can use it?
Stuff like dresses that no one will wear..> I have the bed covers that my great grandmother made for my grandmother's wedding. What the heck can I do with it? she treasured it all her life and gave it to me. It's a sheet and a long thing that covers the pillows. We've never used it. It just takes up space. So get rid of that dress BEFORE it passes to your children who will not care about it but feel guilty because it was yourss...

Guitars. Ah, if you want to play guitar again, Denise, there are lovely new guitars on the market! sell those two while they are still in nice condition!

extra bikes? I want to sell one of mine one of these days too!

[Offthegrid]

My grandmother made her wedding dress, and I have this romantic idea that I'd wear her dress when I get married. But it's a small size so I doubt I'd ever be able to fit into it. Plus it has sweat stains under the arms so it'd need to be repaired. Oh, and there's this little problem that I haven't asked her if I could use it.

You have lots of pictures of you wearing it I bet, so if I were in your shoes I'd likely say goodbye to it also.

[Eden]

My husband (not having a wedding dress to sell - actually neither do I, we saved that money upfront by eloping...) sold a whole bunch of musical equipment to buy his bikes when he decided to take up bike racing. He knew he would only have time for one all encompassing hobby and the bike racing was definitely the healthier option. I have several pieces of camera equipment that I've sworn to put up on ebay to help pay for the race bike I bought last summer - now I just have to do it...

As for selling the wedding dress - Do it!! You'll never wear it again - and who knows what styles will be like later - I would've never wanted to wear a dress from the 70's when my parents were married, so why shouldn't it make as many people happy in the here and now as possible. Better that than ending up in a thrift store in 30 years.

[Ninabike]

Denise . . . guitars, you say? I spend an equal amount of time on line between bike sites and guitar sites. Just think of the bike stuff I could buy if I sold a few guitars - I have Taylors - 810ce, 814ce, NS72ce, T5 (my latest - it really replaces all others), also a Yamaha 12-string and a bass (not to mention several amps. mixers, pedals, all kinds of effects and loops boxes, portable studio digital recorders, mikes, etc. - I play mostly church gigs). Right now a friend is borrowing my NS72 and my 12-string. When I look on eBay, there is so much of this stuff out there, the prices are not good for sellers of these items. Didn't mean to hijack this thread - wern't we talking about wedding dresses? I still have mine in the closet after 32 years!! It would probably fall apart if I tried to take it out!!

[lauraelmore1033]

I was married when I was 19, during the ten minutes or so when I was "thin" and pretty. The dress was made by my grandmother and she used antique lace (100 years old, she claimed) and antique ivory buttons and ivory colored satin (since I'd been a naughty girl and "had" to get married I was only entitled to "off-white"...) with a victorian neckline. It was beautiful and unique and my mother had it cleaned and put in an archival storage thingie. It then spent twenty years taking up too much space in the front hall closet. My children piled junk on top of it, ripped the bag and the 100 year old lace by throwing their skates and baseball bats on top of it. It is pathetic and bedraggled and a size I could never hope to fit into again even if my life depended on it. I feel only guilt every time I look at it. I wish I'd sold it way back when and let it go to a better home...

[mimitabby]

I was married when I was 19, during the ten minutes or so when I was "thin" and pretty. The dress was made by my grandmother and she used antique lace (100 years old, she claimed) and antique ivory buttons and ivory colored satin (since I'd been a naughty girl and "had" to get married I was only entitled to "off-white"...) with a victorian neckline. It was beautiful and unique and my mother had it cleaned and put in an archival storage thingie. It then spent twenty years taking up too much space in the front hall closet. My children piled junk on top of it, ripped the bag and the 100 year old lace by throwing their skates and baseball bats on top of it. It is pathetic and bedraggled and a size I could never hope to fit into again even if my life depended on it. I feel only guilt every time I look at it. I wish I'd sold it way back when and let it go to a better home...

wow, offwhite because you weren't a virgin! people still do that!!!
outrageous! I wore a red long skirt and a white blouse because i wanted to!
and right, both pieces were polyester, who'd want that now?!?

[Aggie_Ama]

I am glad people here don't think I am crazy! I don't feel bad about selling my gown. It is gorgeous and I plan on selling it at 1/3 of its new price. We were on a fairly modest budget and the only reason I got this dress was my Pawpaw bought it for me. Sadly, he died before my wedding. I hope someone else can purchase it for a good price (the dress is still available at full cost in many shops) and have a beautiful day.

I think Pawpaw would get a kick out of me riding all the time. He would think I was crazy, but love the stories. So in my mind his purchase will continue to bring me joy if I sell it and get bike stuff.

On the idea of maybe having a daughter, that is probably a silly reason to keep it. I hope she won't be short and squatty like I was when we got married. I was 5'2" and 170. My husband is 6'2" and thin as a rail. I imagine a daughter will at least be taller than me! And I hope if we have a kid to have a boy! Plus I would have never worn my mother's gown, it was so dated.

[mimitabby]

Amanda; height genetics:

with a short mom and a tall dad you could get tall girls, tall boys, short girls, short boys and lots of blends in the middle!

GOOD LUCK, it's a crap shoot!

[Aggie_Ama]

Amanda; height genetics:

with a short mom and a tall dad you could get tall girls, tall boys, short girls, short boys and lots of blends in the middle!

GOOD LUCK, it's a crap shoot!

My college roommate is a doctor and explained this to me as well. I choose to ignore it. I am the shortest adult member of both of our families, I hope to stay that way. Being so short can be a pain.

Even if a hypothetical daughter is short, the dress will still be dated. And I forgot to mention 1/5 of our budget was a photographer. She ended up wiht 650+ shots, I have plenty to remember the dress.

[Duck on Wheels]

Amanda; height genetics:

with a short mom and a tall dad you could get tall girls, tall boys, short girls, short boys and lots of blends in the middle!

GOOD LUCK, it's a crap shoot!

Yep. Dad was 5'11" (before prostate cancer made swiss cheese out of his bones), Mom was and still is about 5'2". Older bro' is, I think 5'6" (generously estimated), I'm the tall one at 5'9" and Trek420 is (as she says) the scale model -- Mom's height. Randomly assorted heights according to the roll of the DNA dice. But put us in identical wigs and we could almost look like triplets otherwise.

[lauraelmore1033]

wow, offwhite because you weren't a virgin! people still do that!!!
outrageous! I wore a red long skirt and a white blouse because i wanted to!
and right, both pieces were polyester, who'd want that now?!?

well, they did in small-town Indiana when I was growing up. It was actually my brothers who insisted I shouldn't wear white, which is funny since one of them shacked up with his girlfriend before marrying her and the other got his girlfriend pregnant (and SHE wore a dress so white it was positively fluorescent!).

[crazybikinchic]

I am coming up on my 10 year anniversary. I have been considering selling my gown. I actually bought it at a resale shop, so I only paid about $350 for it, but it is hanging in my mother's closet taking up space. I do not have a daughter to pass it on to and even if I did, she would deserve her own gown with her own personallity.

[Pedal Wench]

I just heard about the Making Memories site. So, when my parent's get back into town, the gown from my first is going there - it's been hanging in their house for 19 years.
I took great pleasure in throwing my second wedding dress in the trash (it was just a white sundress, but it still felt great - wouldn't want to pass on the bad karma!)

[Trekhawk]

Interesting theme here.
Stuff. We love our stuff. but we only have so much room... and finances.
When we die we leave it all behind, so why wait, maybe someone else can use it?
Stuff like dresses that no one will wear..> I have the bed covers that my great grandmother made for my grandmother's wedding. What the heck can I do with it? she treasured it all her life and gave it to me. It's a sheet and a long thing that covers the pillows. We've never used it. It just takes up space. So get rid of that dress BEFORE it passes to your children who will not care about it but feel guilty because it was yourss...

Guitars. Ah, if you want to play guitar again, Denise, there are lovely new guitars on the market! sell those two while they are still in nice condition!

extra bikes? I want to sell one of mine one of these days too!

Oooh Mimi did you know that antique linen costs a fortune if its in good condition. I actually collect antique linen (nothing like sleeping on beautiful linen sheets in summer). If you really dont want to keep it check out some antique linen dealers and you might get yourself a nice little bundle of dollars to spend on your bike.

[mimitabby]

Oooh Mimi did you know that antique linen costs a fortune if its in good condition. I actually collect antique linen (nothing like sleeping on beautiful linen sheets in summer). If you really dont want to keep it check out some antique linen dealers and you might get yourself a nice little bundle of dollars to spend on your bike.

antique linen DEALERS? there's such a thing?