I think we're pretty close to 50-50. I do the cooking, but he'll do some prep if I leave a note. He does all kitchen clean up after dinner. Laundry - him (taught by me ). Bathrooms - me (I have higher standards of cleanliness). Everything else is negotiable, done together on the weekends mostly. The process has been honed over 35 years of togetherness - almost 32 married. DH is self employed, leaves the house at 4:30 am, often works 12 hour days. Then he gets on his bike, which he takes with him, and rides or comes home and trains in the garage until I get home. I feel very fortunate he is cheerfully willing to do most anything around the house. I wish I had as much energy.