something i'd like to know? (re: housework)

[caligurl]

something i read somewhere made me wonder.... how many of you married women or women living with men do ALL the housework... all the dishes? all the vacuuming? all the laundry? all the cleaning? all the cooking???? etc!

i get irrited when i see posts from men that say they don't do that cuz they have a wife (or live in girlfriend)! YIKES! both of us work and we both do things around the house... granted i do the laundry.. cuz i have my quirks about it.... but once it's folded.. he puts his own away... i load the dishwasher... he unloads... we both vacuum, clean the bathrooms... clean the catbox (ok... he does that more than i do!) HE takes the trash out and cleans the dog doo!! lol! but we pretty much both do things...we both work... we both ride... ones not the "boss" over the other... it's a partnership!

and for your lurking men.... do you help around the house?

[Bikingmomof3]

DH does half of the housework, care of the kids, ect. We work together as partners/equals.

[mimitabby]

I do more than he does; but often he cooks, cleans the kitchen, sinks, toilet, and does laundry. he also does 95% of all bike work.

so the answer is, I do more; but if he didn't do any it probably wouldn't work! It's close enough to 50-50 for me considering his job takes a lot more hours out of the day than mine does.

[caligurl]

It's close enough to 50-50 for me considering his job takes a lot more hours out of the day than mine does.

see! that's cool... and it works for you two! i mean... if i didn't work at all... then i'd do a lot more (but i still wouldn't take out the trash and scoop the poop! )

[annie]

When I was a SAHM, I did almost all the "house" work. I was there. I had the time, usually. When I went back to work, I was still doing it all..... for a short time, when I decided it wasn't fair, I couldn't do it, and I was going to go crazy. So we had family meeting, set some new standards, and while it hasn't been perfect all these years, it helped. I do my part. Hubby does his. The boys do theirs. I probably still do the most, but that's partly 'cause I want things done my way.

annie

[bike4ever]

Gosh, I though dust was a protective coating for furniture.

[caligurl]

Gosh, I though dust was a protective coating for furniture.

well... you notice when i listed the chore splits... i NEVER mentioned dusting!!! (i DESPISE dusting! HATE it! WORST chore in the world!)

[five one]

I think we're pretty close to 50-50. I do the cooking, but he'll do some prep if I leave a note. He does all kitchen clean up after dinner. Laundry - him (taught by me ). Bathrooms - me (I have higher standards of cleanliness). Everything else is negotiable, done together on the weekends mostly. The process has been honed over 35 years of togetherness - almost 32 married. DH is self employed, leaves the house at 4:30 am, often works 12 hour days. Then he gets on his bike, which he takes with him, and rides or comes home and trains in the garage until I get home. I feel very fortunate he is cheerfully willing to do most anything around the house. I wish I had as much energy.

[Veronica]

I do a little more, but I have more time at home.

V.

[mimitabby]

Dusting? what's dusting? Is that like shaking up dust into the air?
or is it beating someone on your road bike ?

[HappyAnika]

We split things up, very similarly in fact to Caligurl. Except I always do the dusting and vacuuming because he just can't do it to my standards. We share the cooking, and whoever doesn't cook cleans up the kitchen. My standards of cleanliness are definitely higher than his, and it was really difficult to train him how to do some things. He's good at the bathroom and the kitchen, but like I said he just can't vacuum very well. Overall I do more of the cleaning, but he also does a lot more work on the house in terms of things like fixing leaking faucets. We also have some minor reconstruction projects that he does more work on than me (like rebuilding our double hung windows, squaring off doorways, installing crown moulding, etc. . .).

We both work, we both ride and work out, we both take care of the dogs. If I was home more, like when I was unemployed, I would gladly do more around the house, and definitely cook more.

[HappyAnika]

I should also mention that when we have a baby (hopefuly in the not too distant future), we are hiring a cleaning service. I feel like I barely have enough time for my dogs as it is. I will gladly pay someone to dust and vacuum so I can spend more time with my family.

[light_sabe_r]

I can't stand Vaccumming. BF reckon's it's strength training so I let him do it. He's very good at it

I love folding so I usually do it. We dont' iron much

We both cook when we feel like it, and we both clean kitchen bathroom etc equally.

I dunno. i'd say it';s 50:50.... although the house is a mess at the moment so we can both take blame for that. ^_^

[mimitabby]

I will gladly pay someone to dust and vacuum so I can spend more time with my family.

Dust? Vacuum? what are those? (tore up all our carpeting years ago!)

[five one]

Dust? Vacuum? what are those? (tore up all our carpeting years ago!)

We just had hardwood floors installed in all but the bedrooms. Best investment ever in terms of keeping things cleaner and less dusty. It's actually fun to run the swiffer around.