Haudlady,

As you can see, there's lots of ideas...the question is what is right. As I read the question, my first response is "it depends"...Believe it or not, after 23 years, I've learned that what is romantic to a man is not the same to a woman and vice-verse It's a shame it took me 15 years to learn it

But, Gary Chapman wrote a book called The Five Love Languages that basically says that there are five basic ways that people express love. They are listed on this page: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html Essentially they are:
  • Time
  • Touch
  • Service
  • Affirmation
  • Gifts


The answer to your question lies in an assessment of your respective "love languages".

Unfortunately, we tend to "speak" in the language WE want to receive and not in the way that OUR PARTNER wants to receive. For instance, Silver's language tends toward "Quality Time" and "Acts of Service". Therefore, sometimes the most romantic thing I can do is laundry and to sit down and actually talk to her. Silver isn't high on gifts...so if I did that, it would be for naught...unless it has "Trek" painted on the side

Anyway, I'm rambling...Good Luck