Should Men be allowed in a Women's Forum?

[wannaduacentury]

TE is the only other cycling forum I go to daily. I come here for info, hang out, and cyber fun w/ this great group of ladies(and gent) and I'm community leader of Cycling & Triathlons over at ivillage.com. Since I head up that board, I keep it clean and fun like I receive here. So anyone is welcome to visit. Ivillage has strict rules too and I like them, they help keep spammers and inapproprite conversations off the boards. Jennifer

Here's the link
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-fbextreme

[East Hill]

Queen and matagi are both correct!

Queen, because this is a free country, and we get to vent.

Matagi, because the behaviour is generally confined to certain fora. I must confess that I am disappointed when I see a posting which degrades women by someone that I would have thought would know better, but I suppose we all have our lapses.

It's funny, because this evening at work, I spotted a brand new poster at BF. I clicked over to say hello, and this brand new member had already included an avatar of female anatomy, sitting on a motorcycle seat, and wearing a thong. I think that we just were talking about this!

Irulan--we understand the point. However, BF is supposed to be a family friendly website. We refuse to keep getting driven away from what is supposed to be a family friendly site just because a few people can't control themselves.

What are we supposed to do? That withdrawing from confronting bad behaviour is what causes sexual harrasment to continue. I'm not going to allow it to continue if I have my say so, and I believe that most of the women here would agree. I've seen my fill of women being harassed simply because no one would put their foot down and say 'stop'.

East Hill

[caligurl]

It's funny, because this evening at work, I spotted a brand new poster at BF. I clicked over to say hello, and this brand new member had already included an avatar of female anatomy, sitting on a motorcycle seat, and wearing a thong. I think that we just were talking about this!

ughhhhhhhhh.... that just shows me she's looking for attention.... (i have the same avatar there as i do here! cute and GURLIE!)

Irulan--we understand the point. However, BF is supposed to be a family friendly website. We refuse to keep getting driven away from what is supposed to be a family friendly site just because a few people can't control themselves.

absolutely! there's at least one mod who's willing to try to keep it family friendly... but he's only one person.... i wish they would ALL enforce the forum rules.... but alas..... they don't... buy yes... why should we be driven away because a few don't understand FAMILY FRIENDLY? it's NOT an adult forum! anyone 13 and older is welcome.... (and it's not just the kids that posting junk!)

but like i said in my previous post... i've cut back my posting a LOT due to a lot of the subject matter and innuendo that goes on... i'm a married woman and i don't wish to play sex games online with men (or women!) even moreso at a CYCLING forum!

[East Hill]

ughhhhhhhhh.... that just shows me she's looking for attention....

Actually, I think it was a man who wandered in and thought it was a motorcycle forum!

why should we be driven away because a few don't understand FAMILY FRIENDLY? it's NOT an adult forum! anyone 13 and older is welcome.... (and it's not just the kids that posting junk!)

If you want to have a site which features naked women and bikes, be my guest. But it better be a 'member only' website! If it's open to the general public to wander through, I don't need to see women in provocative poses.

but like i said in my previous post... i've cut back my posting a LOT due to a lot of the subject matter and innuendo that goes on...

Exactly. There are a few people, both women and men over there who think that it's a flirting arena, and then get annoyed when the men go too far. I'm willing to be friendly, but I love Mr. East Hill, and I let people know that, so that they don't get the wrong idea. I had noticed that I wasn't seeing much of you over there, even in the SoCal forum.

i'm a married woman and i don't wish to play sex games online with men (or women!) even moreso at a CYCLING forum!

I'm there for the cycling. I'm there to learn things about bicycles. But I'm not there to have to put up with nonsense from anybody.

East Hill

[caligurl]

Actually, I think it was a man who wandered in and thought it was a motorcycle forum!

oops.... i thought you meant a female had her avartar as the naked butt!

I had noticed that I wasn't seeing much of you over there, even in the SoCal forum.

lol! except for yesterday when i got an idea and was on a roll with the 50 bizzilion RATE THE rides directory and threads... hmmmmm the forum is down today... (AGAIN!) wonder if i broke it! lol!

[East Hill]

I don't think you did it, caligurl, but I seem to remember that the promise was made that this would not happen again!

'Tis all right, we can spend more time here, eh?

East Hill

[caligurl]

I don't think you did it, caligurl, but I seem to remember that the promise was made that this would not happen again!

'Tis all right, we can spend more time here, eh?

East Hill

lol! ya.... i think it woulda broken sooner if i had done it!

yeppers! i'm also catching up at a few of my fitness forums (yes.. i'm a cheater!)