Weigh-in Week of January 8

[Pax]

So, several women here post long deeply insightful views on Mr. Silver being here and the only posts he bothers to acknowledge are the ones where he received positive feedback.

The more I think about it, the more I feel as though this is SO typical of our daily interactions with men. For some reason, in a huge room full of women, one man walks in and makes himself at home and the tone starts to change, we feel the need to make him comfortable and welcome...moreso than when a new woman shows up. Why does this happen in this society? Why is it happening here (and it definitely is, he is a focus of attention as commented on by many participants)? Some find it merely odd or unusual that he is so comfy here and others are somewhat concerned about what he could represent to TE.

[Trek420]

So, several women here post long deeply insightful views on Mr. Silver being here and the only posts he bothers to acknowledge are the ones where he received positive feedback.

yeah, you noticed that?

again, just speaking for myself.

I'm not wanting this to degenerate into a petition:

_ the guy stays
_ the guy goes

I was thinking, hoping maybe that this could be our usual humorous funny estrogen-laden insightful subtle polite empathetic discussion of:

* why is this board so great
* where do we want it to go?

I've been told not to think too much about what makes this board so great.

I used to think in part it was because some of us actually get to meet each other. But some of us only meet each other here.

Now I think it may be more that it's a "girl thang". But maybe we don't have that anymore and that's sad. Grieve...move on.

I look at it not so much as a guy/gal thing but it's also cultural to me.

It's like back in the 70's in San Francisco I was in a really nice bar/cafe (yes, I'm old).

This was before there was Ellen, or Will and Grace, or Olivia cycling tours, or Rosie and Donald or anything....you had the bar culture to meet and hang out in and that's it.

So anyway we're there and a few straght couples come in and the feeling is "hi, you're welcome here, but uhm uh why are you here? You have every other cafe. We've carved out this little community and have this. Why here?"

Well, like most women I'm much too busy to solve this issue in one thread or explain it all to any that "don't get it", I got things to do...Knott to talk to....groceries to get.....sometimes you either get it or don't.

[Mr. Bloom]

Queen, since you indicated that you had "Ignored" me...a response would not have mattered. If someone is supportive, it is polite to acknowledge and thank them. Notwithstanding that, I'm not going to engage in a flame with you.

I stand on what I have posted on this forum as evidence of my character and I will not be provoked into a battle with you or anyone else.

Can I debate? Sure I can and I'd enjoy it...but I choose not to and I won't.

Now, I'm sure you have good reason for feeling as strongly as you do ... BUT
I am not the stereotype that is the focus of your negative emotions on this issue.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

This issue should not degenerate into personal putdowns, everyone.

[Bluetree]

This is an important topic, so I started a new thread called "Should Men be allowed in a Women's Forum?" in the Open Topic Forum. Let's all take it over there so more people can chime in.

KelownaGirl, my apologies to the total and complete hijack of your topic!

[kelownagirl]

KelownaGirl, my apologies to the total and complete hijack of your topic!

LOL, no problem! I enjoy drifting threads and this is certainly an interesting topic of conversation. I will be starting a new week's thread tomorrow anyway. (If no one else does.)