Grog -- I think you've probably already covered this, but I just thought I'd ditto the part about being sure your partner gets a shot at what he wants. You said he wanted some of the traditional stuff -- find out what it is he thinks is important. Then you won't be doing it for the expectations of others -- you'll be doing something for him, at a time when he can't.

Sounds like you've got it all covered though, and you'll have a great time!