Do not, and I repeat do not get sucked into pleasing others. It is YOUR wedding, not anyone elses. Get your spouse on the same page and be team when it comes to pressure to do certain things. While there are some things that should not be scrimped on ( like thank you notes) do what you want. Save your $$ for a new bike or a down payment on a house.

I had an outdoors blue grass wedding. We rented a group campsite at a state park. The reception was pot luck. I wore my grandmothers wedding dress. I just happened, at the time, to jam with a bunch of guys in a blue grass band who agreed to play for $100. My sister just happened to work at a bakery.

I think the whole thing cost us $500.

just for grins, go to the wedding ettiquette hell website.
http://www.etiquettehell.com/content...eh_index.shtml