*sigh* Wedding planning

[Trekhawk]

LOL - glad Im not the only one that finds the whole full on wedding reception thing a bit much. My Mum and Dad really wanted a big traditional wedding reception for me but I just couldnt cope with that and all the expense that goes with it. My husband and I decided on a cocktail party as our wedding reception with lots of wonderful drinks and lovely Hors D'oruvres provided throughout the evening by waiters on lovely platters. The venue overlooked the ocean and it was just perfect. I couldnt cope with the whole big cake thing so we opted for a Croquembouche. The great thing about these is that its made for the amount of guests you are having so there is normally no left overs to deal with and the price (at least for us in Aust) was a lot more reasonable than a big traditional cake.

Check out Croquembouche and Profiterole cakes here
http://www.brunetti.com.au/WeddingCakes.html#wedding

I cant believe so many people end up in debt or drain their savings for huge weddings it just seems odd to me.

Good luck with the wedding plans.

[ribbit_zap]

The cookie idea is really cool and would be inexpensive. I just might steal that idea... I am currently planning a wedding too and dealing with the whole "wedding expectations". I don't want a super expensive dress or flowers or food. We decided that it is our day and we should be happy, whatever that equates to. We are probably going to spend more money on the honeymoon than the wedding! Good luck with all the planning!

[Grog]

aaaah! Ladies! Thank you! I knew I could count on you to make me feel better about all this and come up with nice, simple, refreshing ideas!! It's great to hear that some people at least share my uneasiness with all the rigid (and expensive) traditions surrounding what should be just a wonderful celebration of love and commitment.

We - or rather I - have decided that the event would be catered because we all enjoy good food. The venue is an unpretentious golf club which will be decorated already. It's more expensive because we need to buy all the food and all the booze from them, but this is probably the price for having less time to invest ourselves. A potluck would have been something GREAT if half the guests were not flying in from other cities and staying in cramped houses or hotel rooms for the days around the wedding. Another thing is that neither of us has lots of time so finding a decent venue that's decorated and provides sound equipment etc. is a great relief! I'd love to have the reception outside, but even in August this is risky in Vancouver... I'm already worried about having the ceremony outside!! (Which will be outside our residential college by the ocean at UBC, for those who know the area!).

But Dear Fiancé and I had another conversation last night and I think we made progress. He's just as shocked as I am by the industrial feel of it all and also wants to have things our way. With your ideas and ours I think we'll make something fun happen!

We want to go from the ceremony to the reception venue (about 2-3 km) on our bikes and attach cans at the back! No transportation fees (but about 20 dollars to decorate the bikes!) Music will also be a DIY affair. I'm hoping to find a musician friend for the ceremony itself, though. Photographs? We'll see what happens.

big hug to all you ladies! you really lifted my spirits there!

[mimitabby]

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We want to go from the ceremony to the reception venue (about 2-3 km) on our bikes and attach cans at the back! No transportation fees (but about 20 dollars to decorate the bikes!) Music will also be a DIY affair. I'm hoping to find a musician friend for the ceremony itself, though. Photographs? We'll see what happens.

big hug to all you ladies! you really lifted my spirits there!

gosh, i was hoping you'd get your bikes involved somehow!!


Wahine, a surprise wedding, if that doesn't take ALL! and thanks for the info about diamonds. I have never liked them and now I feel so much wiser for knowing the rest of the story!

[Wahine]

Hey Grog,

I'm attaching my step daughter's website. She's a photog and does fantastic, non-conventional stuff. Not only that, her brother lives in Vancouver and I'm sure she would love to use this as an opportunity to visit family.

Warning, she's very popular in the LA trendy young people's scene so I doubt that she's cheap. I have no idea what she charges but her stuff is amazing.

http://www.photographybyhelene.com/

Check it out. She studied Fine Arts at UVic, so even if you don't want to hire her she made have a suggestion for a local contact.