Another etiquette question

[li10up]

This is just when there are two of us and we aren't drafting...just kind of doing our own thing and not necessarily trying to stay together the whole time. Sometimes you just feel strong and before you know it you're out ahead...or just the opposite...you don't feel at your best and you've lagged behind.

[bcipam]

I think it has to do with whether or not you are talking about someone you don't know but was kind enough to wait or someone you ride with all the time. If a Stranger, then I would not ride by, I would ride up to and engage in conversation and either drop back or then ride ahead. If a bud, usually whoever is waiting starts off as I ride up so I can draft or if stopped then I would ride by, signaling OK I'm here let's get riding. It would probably be impolite to not acknowledge that the person waited. Always give them a thumbs up or thank you.

[RoadRaven]

If its the two of you out for a training ride, then I wouldn't worry too much... I tend to get passed on hills by my training mates as I set my own pace according to my HR... but on downhill legs I tend to shoot away and past them and we all kind've mooch back together on the flats.

Check that your training partner isn't doing something like sprint intervals - that will mean they shoot by occasionally.

And have a chat with them when you pull alongside each other - ask "wow, that was a quick burst... were you; practicing sprints/testing your strength/etc...?"

Have fun and chill - you kind've explain why this happens anyway when you write

just kind of doing our own thing and not necessarily trying to stay together the whole time

If it bothers you when they fly by, ask what they were doing - maybe its something you could do too to improve your cycling too!

[Offthegrid]

I've done this in the past and now realize that it was rude. I was on a very hilly charity ride. The friend I was with could blast me up the hills, but I'd fly by him on the downhills. I just figured he'd easily dust me on the next hill.

[Eden]

I've done this in the past and now realize that it was rude. I was on a very hilly charity ride. The friend I was with could blast me up the hills, but I'd fly by him on the downhills. I just figured he'd easily dust me on the next hill.

Really its all about expectations - if you and your friend were OK with that arrangement with it then why should it have been rude? If I were riding with one other person like li10up and I specifically waited for them I think I would get a bit peeved if they went whizzing on by. (Yep li - I think that was kind of rude of your riding partner)

[Geonz]

If I'm riding with somebody significantly slower than I am, then I don't mind at all that they go flying by me... because I'll have a good time catching up, and they won't have to slow down and then speed up again.
If the roles were reversed, I'd explain that I was working too hard to waste *any* energy and knew that person could catch up... tho' I'd at least slow down a bit and try to get a reading on what the other person was thinking.

I'm thinking that if I got ahead, and then the person behind me blew by me... maybe they simply felt like they were doing *exactly* what I had already done to them, and either that was the natural rhythm of things, or they were trying to send me a "see how it feels?????" message. If they were rude... then I was, too.

[CycleChic06]

Ugh, this happens when I ride with my dad. I'm faster than him going up the hills. I only ride with him occasionaly, but when we do, I always ride with him going up the hills or if I get ahead, I slow down for him to catch up. As I see it, we're out for a ride together. I know I could charge up the hill and leave him in the dust, but it's not a race and we're out riding to enjoy each others company. But the second we get to the top of the hill, he takes off leaving me in the dust. It drives me crazy!

The way he sees it is that he's getting old and doesn't want to 1. show is age and 2. be beaten by his daughter. He feels he has to prove to himself that he's still strong and says stuff like "You can't keep up with me on the downhills." And "What's taking you so long?" And I have to hold back so hard from saying anything because he's VERY sensitive and defensive about it all.