Heartless Cyclist Haters

[Trek420]

Hey Cuz! I'm so glad you found this board.

On behalf of the board I hearby nominate you an honorary woman, at least as far as visiting rights to TE is concerned.

Come on out and ride with us.

We're a much nicer group than that other roadbikereview board ahem.

And....we actually get out and ride together. and eat

The California rides are posted here, we have an assault on Mt Diablo this weekend but tut tut looks like rain?

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/forumdisplay.php?f=61

[bouncybouncy]

On behalf of the board I hearby nominate you an honorary woman, at least as far as visiting rights to TE is concerned.

goosebumps

i grew up in NoCal...feel a distant connection to your sisterhood in the area!


would say much more but 1-handed....sorry!

[CyclChyk]

Trek, Maury, Duck - you and your families are in my prayers....

My sincerest sympathies

[crazycanuck]

Maury,

Your dear kathy looked like an amazing lady and lucky to have such a wonderful man in her life.

My wish for you is strength. Be strong for you and take your time to heal.

I know i'm far away but my thoughts are with you & your family.

c

[Maury Cohen]

I'm planning to go on our local club ride tomorrow. This was the same 2nd Friday ride that Kathy was headed to when she left us. I may take the same route that she did, around the same time. Maybe I'll see the same recycling truck and I can see if he uses his signal or if his emergency flashers are on (which I was told by another driver recently is their policy). I'm a bit obsessed with creating an image of what she saw last.
Yesterday was one of the best I've had in a while. Today started off with lots of sadness. I expect this will be the case for a while; these ups and downs. I should think of them as "rollers" like we used to blow over on the tandem. Kathy loved to stand up and blast past single bikes on the small uphills. ; )
Keep the rubber side down all.

Maury

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I'm planning to go on our local club ride tomorrow. This was the same 2nd Friday ride that Kathy was headed to when she left us. I may take the same route that she did, around the same time. Maybe I'll see the same recycling truck and I can see if he uses his signal or if his emergency flashers are on (which I was told by another driver recently is their policy). I'm a bit obsessed with creating an image of what she saw last.
Yesterday was one of the best I've had in a while. Today started off with lots of sadness. I expect this will be the case for a while; these ups and downs. I should think of them as "rollers" like we used to blow over on the tandem. Kathy loved to stand up and blast past single bikes on the small uphills. ; )
Keep the rubber side down all.

Maury

Maury,
You are doing all the things that you feel you need to do right now. The image creating thing is totally normal. Do whatever comes to you as an urge, no matter whether the act may on the surface seem odd, morbid, sweet, or sad. Doesn't matter- it's a healing act, and that's good. Avoid what feels just too painful for the moment, you can always come back to it later on if you need to, or not. You call the shots right now.
I spoke with my husband last night about what I would want him to do if I died. I told him that if that ever happened, I wanted him above all to NOT suffer alone and withdraw into himself. I said I would want him to allow all our friends in to surround him with love and strength, and that he should go forward and stay active and a positive force. The thing that would make me unhappiest is for him to go through his pain and grief all alone and in silence.
You are doing the very things that Kathy would have wanted.
Have a good ride tomorrow. Ride on in her spirit.

[Pedal Wench]

I was okay reading this until Trek's description of the 'Missing Stoker' on the tandem. Maury, what great strength you must have within to get through that day. Stay strong, and stay safe.

[Maury Cohen]

This weekend there's a Landpaths event that was dedicated in kathy's honor.
I'll be there. It's the Three Bridges Ride and Roll.

http://www.landpaths.org/


Love to you all,
Maury

Life goes on...

[Deanna]

The local paper reported on released results of the investigation as to fault (the driver)

http://tinyurl.com/yr37y5

[Veronica]

Thanks for posting the follow up Deanna.

V.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Yes thank you for the update. Good to read that at least the case was thoroughly investigated.
Maury, I hope you were able to find the inner strength to get through this further painful ordeal. Kathy is not forgotten....and neither are you.