Sally I personally don't think you said anything wrong you were simply voicing a level of frustration some (this has included myself) who participate in the SS exchanges have felt at one time or another. I think, this of course if my personal opinion, that if you know your package is going to be late a short note to the organizer stating just that would help a lot. They, the organizer, could in turn PM the person who is wondering about the whereabouts of their package so they did not become frustrated and feel left out of the exchange. I know several people, including myself, have posted notes that a package was on the way or a package was going to be late but in reality the SS has no earthly idea if that message is for them or for someone else who is participating. Again, I think it is important to let this person know they have not been forgotten and brief PM would do the job and relieve all tension, worry and frustration.

I also think that once a gift is received a note of thanks should be posted or a PM sent so the sender knows that their package made it safely to its destination. You may not know who you SS is but they did take time and spend some $ to make your day a little brighter so everyone should take a moment to say "THANK YOU" but again that is how I was raised and I realize not everyone shares my views.