Boy, LBTC, you two have certainly had more than your share of issues this year. I think relief is a very normal feeling with any diagnosis. It's a milestone that lets you make decisions about the future and make constructive changes - less whirling in circles. Always a good thing in my book.
Just going to offer my 2 cents about stress. All diseases and disorders can be reactive to stress. We're a whole integrated body, mind over matter and all that jazz, but immune system disorders are especially senstive to it. You've heard it before. When I get wound up over things, the buzzing in my face starts. It's a very minor but effective reminder that "Hey, stupid, you've got MS. Let it go." Yellow has a great handle signal that she waves in the air at me when I forget (what are friends for
).
I've became much more active at not being reactive. Dealing with the things I can control and walking away from the things I can't -- even if that means limited contact with family members. I weigh my options before saying yes to others' requests and focus on what I need to do for fitness and proper rest. My one and only flare last winter made me realize that tons of little stressor can trigger an event -- it isn't just the big stuff.
I know there are lots of people out there with Crohn's leading very active and normal lives. But like MS, we tend to hear only about the extreme cases. Stay positive and look for what works for you -- and say no to the guilt-imposed yes. Your main obligation is to you.
Frends know gud humors when dey is hear it. ~ Da Crockydiles of ZZE.