one too many (warning: sad)

[emily_in_nc]

I am so sorry for your loss.

My boyfriend's older brother took his own life while I was in college. It was just devastating on the family. I watched his mother lose tons of weight without even trying to diet, and everyone suffered mightily. People who do this just don't realize how much they will hurt everyone around them and how much they were loved.

Emily

[SheFly]

Tygab - so sorry for your loss. Thanks, though, for sharing with us. That will definitely help you as you move through your grieving process.

Nineteen years ago (can it really be that long ago????), my BF/best friend took his life one week before we graduated from high school. Like you, I had no idea that this was coming. What made it even more difficult for me were the questions from friends about whether I knew...

I went off to college and drank myself silly to try to cope. With the help of some good friends, I soon realized that this was not the answer, and tried to effectively deal with my grief in more constructive ways - counseling, writing, TALKING about the events. It really took a long time for me to come to terms with the fact that there was NOTHING that I could have done to stop this tragedy from happening.

I have maintained a close relationship with my BF's parents. A couple of years ago I showed up at their house. We all cried and laughed still over our memories. It was really important to them that I still remembered their son. It also maintains a link for me...

May 1 of next year will mark the 20th anniversary for me. The day will not pass without reflection and some sadness, even still.

Know that you will get through this. A year may seem like a long time, but you are on the road to healing. It is a bumpy and windy road. Know that you are not alone on your journey. I am located in MA, so if you ever want a shoulder, let me know.

Hugs,
SheFly

[janetsplanet]

My husband committed suicide 20 years ago last month.
He left behind a beautiful little 3 year old girl and a wife who would have done anything for him.
You never forget but like all death you move through those stages of sadness, anger and finally forgiveness.
To this day I still find it hard to give my heart to any man but I have found peace within and thank him for my daughter.
The saddest thing is that now my daughter is showing some of the signs of the illness he had. At her age, our doctor said it may get worse so the best thing to do is keep a close watch on those he was closest to.
Please learn to celebrate his life and remember the good times and feeling he gave to people. It will make it so much easier to forgive and help those around you that may not be able to...It will never make sense but it may help another lost soul in this world on the edge.

[Bikingmomof3]

My prayers for all of who who have been impacted by such a loss.