Having babies

[DDH]

I don't think you offended anyone. I am glad to know that you were being humorous, but even if you weren't, everyone is entitled to their own feelings and opinions.
I bet you won't be as tied down to the house as you think you might. It's amazing the things they have now days to be able to accomdate everyone's hobbies and still have children. Who knows what neat new thing they might have by the time you have a child.

I do get your humor now that I know you were being that way. I call mine a brat all the time and he knows I say it with all the love in my heart. I never say it except in humor. Guess that makes the difference. Hope I haven't scarred him for life.

[HappyAnika]

Ok, I was thinking about this some more, and here's what bugs me, you keep talking about how your husband will get to go riding but not you. Its just as much your husband's baby as yours, so why should all the responsibility of caring for the child fall on you? It shouldn't! (Even if you plan to breastfeed, they have pumps so you can always have milk available).

Ok, here I go again with the dogs. This is before we were even engaged, we got our lab puppy at 7 weeks old, our other dog was 5 then. The puppy slept in a crate at night in our bedroom and had to get up once or twice every night to go outside and do her business. I'm a heavy sleeper and I hate to be bothered with getting up. DH was so wonderful about taking the puppy out every single night, in December and January in the freezing cold for her to pee. I knew then that he was perfect for being the father of my children.

Now I know that lots of women make the choice to become single mothers and my hats off to them. I don't think I could do it alone. I'm all about sharing responsibilities between us. Even if you are going to be a SAHM since your husband earns more, you should feel entitled to some personal time away from the baby, meanwhile he needs some bonding time with the baby, so it all works out. Have you talked about this with your husband?

[Tuckervill]

But we go through them and move (limp, stagger,blunder,meander) on to a New Normal in an equally Meaningful Life.

Sometimes we even sail.

Karen