Well, I'm not one of the women with kids, but I do have a job. Fortunately, I teach at a university, so I have time to ride on Wednesday mornings as well as one or more weekend days. Is it possible for you to do a ride one morning a week before work? Now that DST is over, for a little while, it'll be light a lot earlier in the mornings, so you could take advantage of that to get in a ride or two on weekday mornings.

Regarding weekend rides, if you get out there early enough, like 8-ish, you can get in some decent mileage by noon (40 miles or so) and then still have most of the day for other activities, including down time, if that's what you want--we all need some of that! That's what I do on weekends.

Most of this is obvious, so you may have thought of all these things before. This is how I get my mileage in. I'd still like to do more sometimes, but this gets me 50-70 miles in an average week.