Hair Woes & Opinions

[Trek420]

KnottedYet "The only bit of outside opinion that I fret over is that I don't look d*key anymore. Grrls used to notice me a little, now I feel invisible. But I like my hair"

IMHO wear your hair the way you like, it's your hair You can always get the jersey that says "nobody knows I'm g*y"

[rocknrollgirl]

Mine was always down past my shoulders and three years ago when I had surgery I cut it in a short layered bob. I got out of the shower in the morning, shook my head like a dog, put a small amount of goop in my hair and out the door I went. I had tons of compliments, and thought it nade me look younger.
Last fall, I started to grow it out for no particular reason. As it got a little longer my Mom says that she likes it soooooo much better. Figures.

So here I am, it is getting there, down past my collar, layers growing out, and I HATE IT. WHAT A HUGE PAIN IN MY A**. The blowdrying and the fussing and clips and ponytail that is not quite there yet!!!!!!!!!!!

ARRGGGHHH!!!!
And I think it is making me look older. I am not a fussy girl..think rockclimber and mt biker....why am I fussing with my friggin' hair....

Mom , that is why....


ARGGGHHH!!!!!

ok, I feel better now....

[pooks]

Some people like change. So they get used to your hair one way, and then you do something different and they love it. It doesn't mean it REALLY looks better. It could look good both ways.

Also, to a certain extent going with the flow of fashion can make you like your hair, and other people, too. Then you look back and think, oh my god what was I thinking? But in the context of the times, it looked great, and you can't forget that.

I look at Liz Taylor. She started off with the fifties hair, went long with bangs in the late 60s/70s, went 80s shag -- etc, etc, etc. One thing that helped her continue to look "young" was that she didn't stick to the same hairstyle forever.

They say that you can tell at what age many women felt like they looked the best, because they have never changed their look again. Same lipstick color, same hairstyle, etc. It's so TRUE. I think men are even worse.

[Velobambina]

I bet your hair looks beautiful!

Did your stylist warn you that red is very hard to maintain? I've had red hair since I started going grey in my early twenties, and if you aren't careful about using the right shampoo, it will either fade or go brassy. Also, leave-in conditioner is better than the wash out kind.

I went through something similar early this year---got tired of my long hair and had it chopped to just below chin length. This 30 year old awful girl/child at work said to me, "oh you got your hair cut." Nothing else. In front of everyone in the office. sheeesh. Anyway, I didn't care becase I liked it because I'm a no maintenance type of gal, just like Rock'n Roll girl. I'm the bane of my stylist's existence because I refuse to blow dry my hair or consider anything other than a layered bob. I wash, run a comb thru it, glob in gel (by the way, Shikai makes a great gel for colored hair), scrunch the waves/curls and go.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I have been red for the past 15 years. My natural color is dark ash blonde. Red is the hardest color to maintain. Two hours in the sun and it starts to fade to pink or orange! It was not easy, but I hated the idea of being "dishwater blonde"- too greyish against my face.
A year ago I noticed I was getting a LOT of silver hair mixed in. That's when I decided to let it all go natural again. Now my dark ashe blonde looks GOOD with gleaming silver streaks mixed throughout, and I love it! It actually is more golden now too it seems, because of the sun I've gotten outdoors all summer.

The haircut is the easy part to keep maintained- once you get a person you liike and can count on. It's the coloring chore that I have always hated....but now I'm free from that. I LOVE having short hair- been 20 years in the "joan of Arc meets Mia Farrow" look.

[LBTC]

Ah, the hair dilemma. This is an interesting one.

Years ago, when I was making very little money, I started growing out my super short hair because I couldn't afford the every three week haircut required for it to look good.

Fast forward to last year, and my hair was long enough that the stragglers were down to my butt...We made good money until this June, and I could have been doing all sorts of styles whenever, but had grown cheap. Straight long hair, baby doll bangs that I cut myself, DH doing the colouring almost often enough to keep me blonde.

I'm trying to grow my bangs out, and can almost get it all behind my ear so it's not in my eyes. Yay! and I did cut about 12 inches off before I started my new job. I don't blow dry (too hard on the hair), I wash it before bed and don't brush it until it is dry in the morning.

I do miss short hair for the not having to do anything with it, but that was a buzz cut - hardly the look I'd enjoy having today.

I'm afraid of the commitment to frequent haircuts that shorter hair means, but, I would rather like to have less hair to deal with...

Now I make pretty good money, but DH's income is less than half of what it was. Luckily there is a hair school here, so the cuts and styles will be less than other places, but I'm still not sure we can afford all those haircuts.

I've got a hair appointment there on Nov 10. I'd love to go short with copper highlights.....but it's got to be a wash and go style, I hate "product".

And I have to say, one of the reasons I've kept the long blonde hair so long is that I really have had lots of compliments about it. Approval can be so addicting!

I'll let you know what I finally decide.

Namaste,
~T~

[colby]

I have the "long hair problem" myself -- many strands down to as low on my back as possible without being in dangerous territory (okay, some are in dangerous territory). It's fairly easy to maintain, wash, brush, tie back or leave down. All the same length, so I don't have bangs in my eyes or anything.

I go back and forth on cutting it. I can't braid my own hair very well, so when I go running and wear my camelbak waistpack, my hair gets caught between my back and the pack, which means tangles. When I wear my tri-suit with a zipper, my hair gets caught in the zipper. When I swim, I stuff it all in a cap (which gets easier after you practice) or it is all over my face. When I work, it drops down into my face, blah blah. Biking is probably the only time it doesn't really bug me

I do get compliments on the length, though, and regular hair cuts are a pain. I don't want something I have to maintain with a lot of effort, even if it means I wear my hair the same every day or don't do anything exciting with it. So, I guess I'm indecisive Not really looking for a change, but for practical reasons I might have to cut it a bit. Sometimes I debate cutting it all off and going for the spiked look. That inbetween length where it's too long to style like short hair and too short to style like long hair is hard, though.

Good to know other people have the "hair problem" even if it's not the same one. I guess everyone does, but so much of the "female identity" is tied up in hair that sometimes it seems like a bigger issue than it should be.

[chickwhorips]

i can't even tell you how many times i've changed my hair and what its looked like. beauty school.... need i say more?

if you like it keep it. if you don't like such extreme color, tell your stylist that. its your hair. even if it is to much for you the color will fade a bit. specially reds.

my major question is this: where's the pic? i wanna see what it looks like.

[Kitsune06]

The only time my hair has ever had "body" is when it's been spiked, cuz it's baby fine and thin and very straight.

...And I haven't been called "Sir" in months! ...

The only bit of outside opinion that I fret over is that I don't look d*key anymore. Grrls used to notice me a little, now I feel invisible. But I like my hair.

My hair is baby fine and thin, but when I let it get to most women would consider it "short" it develops these weird waves (thanks, Dad) that make it pretty when it's long, but weird when its short. Like sticky-uppies in the back of my head, or the weird way it makes a hump in the front right qtr. of my head and almost *parts* on the side of my head. No, it doesn't look as bad as I'm probably describing it, but it feels that way. I use Hairgum (not sure who makes it but you can google it) and put it on along the roots, then just ruffle my hair. It sticks up for awhile, then settles and looks 'slept in' which is kinda cute. I've had little kids argue with their parents as to whether or not I was a boy. That's always fun. Mom's always mortified, but I smile... DGF takes great pains to look invisible, but I remind her that if she's standing next to me, I'm d*key enough for both of us and people will assume things about her, anyway. She pouts.

IMHO wear your hair the way you like, it's your hair You can always get the jersey that says "nobody knows I'm g*y"

I need that jersey... but it'd be way ironic for me to wear it... kinda like my tee that says "It's my boyish charm"... :eyeroll*

When I start to go grey, I'm going to grow my hair out, I think. I love old hippies, and someday I'll be one of them.