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[Bikingmomof3]

(((((((((((indy))))))))))))))))

[ClockworkOrange]

Hi Indy

Hope today will be a better day...........


Sally

[indysteel]

Thanks for your support. Thankfully, I'm feeling better now. The nice weather this past weekend and a good ride yesterday helped. Through this whole breakup experience, I've learned to ride out the bad days and rejoice in the good days. Fortunately, the good days are becoming more and more plentiful. It's nice to know that I can come here for support on the bad days though! Part of being "indysteel" through this whole thing has been to acknowledge and articulate my sadness rather than to suppress it, i.e., to actually deal with the breakup rather than to bulldoze over it, which has been my habit in the past.

The breakup sucks though. My ex-BF is a really good man, with a tremendous amount going for him. Too bad that he doesn't see that though. As our relationship progressed, I came to realize that he's suffering from depression (at least in my opinion). In the very least, he has some issues that he's not really dealing with. As a result, he's (a) emotionally unavailable and (b) not an appropriate or healthy choice for me as a partner. So, while I'm confident that I did the right thing in ending the relationship, there was much that I liked and respected about him, and I do miss him.

I've been single more often than not. I just don't often meet someone who floats my boat. It's not a pickiness thing exactly; it's just that my interests and personality don't seem to jive with a lot of the men where I live. Add to that the fact that I'm 37 and that most of the men who are "age appropriate" are already married, and it's made for some lonely years. That said, I am a pretty independent person (which partially explains my screen name) and there's much about my single life that I love. It's very easy for me to settle back into singledom without giving much thought to men. I'm trying hard to resist that urge this time around. I'm not quite ready to move onto another relationship, but I am happy to report that I have a date next weekend with a fellow cyclist. Hopefully, I'll at least have some fun. I could use some fun.

Thanks again ladies! You're the best cyber friends a girl could have!

Kate

[Bad JuJu]

Just catching this thread today, but I'm so glad to hear you're feeling better. Good luck with your upcoming date! But also nurture that independence, which will get you over the rough spots.

I don't know whether you're a dog person, but Cocoa sends a big, sloppy, dog kiss to help you feel better.