i cant have kids either and i realise i cope by burying my head in the sand,this thread opened it all up,but in a nice way,in a sharing way..........seems some days when you go into town everyone is pregnant.We have a charity locally called the friendship project,you look after disadvantaged kids one/two days a week,ive looked after several kids,from Downs syndrome/sex abused/bullied etc etc even when they turn 16 and social services withdraws the service to them/you.i find i have a kind of extended family of kids ive helped along the way,and its not a replacement,but its a nice warm feeling.when i stop racing(selfish or what)id love to do this again.im scared the rigmarole of interviews etc etc for adopting would be as much stress as IVF.if they rejected me then id think i was a physical AND MENTAL reject.