oh no...............

[Grog]

Sorry girls, this talk makes me really uncomfortable.

If I read this on a guy's board about a woman not telling a man she was married, I'd get more than uncomfortable. So I try to be symmetrical.

You can say I have no sense of humour if you like... I'd rather say that I have very low tolerance for physical violence, even in words thrown around just for fun.

[esther231]

You're right. It's just play but I'm sorry it made you uncomfortable. No harm intended.

[Kitsune06]

I'm 'mostly harmless' for a reason- even if I'm a madwoman. Though I'd use the same terms for any friend of mine (male or female) who "done mah friend wrong" but yeah, I got a little wound up. No harm intended...

[pooks]

Well, call me old-fashioned but that guy wouldn't even be a "friend" after that stunt.

As for romantic love being a modern American construct -- I don't think so. It was actually a subversive European construct -- subversive because women writers started writing love stories about women who actually managed to bring men to their knees in the name of romantic love. Romance at that time was the horrifying idea that young girls and women who were supposed to be bartered off to the highest monetary and political advantage to the father would instead find a way to use "love" to subvert the system.

Ah, the power.

[Kitsune06]

Pooks- that was very much my take on it... I just hoped someone who knew what they were saying would say something first (because I could go on and on talking around the subject, but never actually define my thoughts...)

(I can see it now, Pooks saying "Aryn! SPEAK!!!" *whap!*)

but yeah, perish the thought that in a world of dowrys and marriage chests, a woman should choose a poorer man out of love instead of the richer man per an arrangement.

Call me the artsyfartsy romantic type, but I think love and romance are both very real and very much alive today...

[pooks]

There have been some very romantic true life love stories in my family. My dad walked into a USO in New Orleans in WWII and looked across the room and saw my mom. There was another woman standing there, and he said to her, "If you'll introduce me to that girl over there, I'd appreciate it. I'm going to marry her."

The woman was my grandmother, who said, "Over my dead body!"

Two weeks later my grandmother was threatening to jump off the Louisiana State Capitol if my mom married my dad, and six weeks later, they were married.

They were married for ... oh gosh, over 55 years when he died.

However -- these long marriages almost always have VERY rough periods. I know mine has had them! I was certain I'd end up divorced a few years back, but now I'm happier than I've ever been. So romance sparks but only hard work and lot of give and take keeps it going.

[Kitsune06]

There are some fantastic stories of romance etc in my family, too... My ex- so great for doing things that would "make great stories someday"... so bad at being a real person in day-to-day life. It's all a balance, and in there, you've either got that spark of chemistry, or you don't...

Oh, love is such a fickle thing...

[chickwhorips]

The woman was my grandmother, who said, "Over my dead body!"

Two weeks later my grandmother was threatening to jump off the Louisiana State Capitol if my mom married my dad, and six weeks later, they were married.

They were married for ... oh gosh, over 55 years when he died.

i take it she didn't jump.

kit we both know the truth.

[KnottedYet]

Call me the artsyfartsy romantic type, but I think love and romance are both very real and very much alive today...

but, but, you're still married?

[Kitsune06]

only legally. Due to recent events and circumstances, I think I can safely say I don't even know him anymore. He's no longer the person who was once my other half. I paid my half of the divorce costs (it's expensive...) and God(ess) willing, he and his GF's new job will pay the other half.

I should just change my entire name for good. =P

[Kitsune06]

I'm 'mostly harmless' for a reason- even if I'm a madwoman. Though I'd use the same terms for any friend of mine (male or female) who "done mah friend wrong" but yeah, I got a little wound up. No harm intended...

kit we both know the truth.

You're right. I'm a little more than 'mostly' harmless, but if I wasn't, I'd hardly belong on Team Danger!
Ok, that and harm can be intended if people mess with those near an' dear.
CWR, you're keeping me honest...