Um, woah woah woah...

I'm still "technically" married. I was when I met my GF and when xdh met his GF. There are rare instances where people are 'married' but are still dating etc.

That said, he's a **** (just asterisks, but fill in the space with your word of choice) for not being up front about it. Even if he really likes you and was afraid of 'scaring you off' honesty wins far more points. (and besides, in that situation, generally, his 'wife' would also be there to tell you "Yeah... he's just my roommate for now") unless they're swingers or the like...

BUT... I've been in a torch-and-pitchfork mood for awhile, so Alaska, Bacon Grease, and Trees sound like a good idea. Some farm girl should bring a burdizzo, too. Just for giggles and to watch him go white. I know, I'm bad.