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Kitsune06 · 09-30-2006, 08:15 PM

Can I vent here, just a little?

I'm really starting to hate my job. If things were set up in such a way that I could actually *do* my job, it'd probably be okay... but something happened tonight that's driving me straight up a wall. I can't go into specifics, but the police dept for the town I'm in called and needed to speak urgently to one of our employees regarding her son. It was an emergency. For the next 20minutes, I'm trying every extension I have, trying managers on their radios, everything and I can't reach anyone who can find this employee. I finally caved when the officer started to lose her patience with me, and called one of our Emergency Response Techs to just run out onto the floor to see if they can find this poor woman. I mean, it's her son here... so 15 minutes after that the woman finally gets here, and I can finally call the PD for her and have them tell her that her son's okay, etc... but that's half an hour delay just trying to find someone. I should be able to grab anyone right off the floor- if theoretically, our directy was accurate, and people answered their radios, etc etc. GRRRRRRRR

...thinking positive job thoughts.

**KnottedYet** · 09-30-2006, 09:27 PM

New job, new job, new job.

<positive new job thoughts>

Spokes are crossed for ya.

**KnottedYet** · 10-01-2006, 07:11 AM

RABBIT RABBIT!!

Happy Oct 1, everyone!

Finally read my email (didn't for a week, I forget I have email acct). Discovered I missed the LAST Team Survivor bike ride/end of the year get-together at Hales Ales (brew pub). DANG! At least they emailed the end-of-year survey. I'm gonna volunteer for the bike program next year. Especially the jersey committee, already told them I was gonna work on that. Anyone got any good sites for me to look at to learn about custom jerseys? (hint, hint, Amici Veloci?) Or a favorite jersey company?

Too much to do today. Dunno how I'll get a ride in. And my Ibex knickers are dirty dirty dirty from y'day. And my skort is dirty dirty dirty from Wednesday. Gee, I should start doing laundry. Might have to wear my Emergency Back-Up saggy-baggy bike shorts. My lycra droopy-drawers catch on the nose of my saddle, but I MUST! RIDE! BIKE!

Kitsune06 · 10-01-2006, 08:26 AM

If Flossie's calling to you that much, I'd definitely suggest the saggy baggies. What are function or fit when we're talking true love here?

**Bikingmomof3** · 10-01-2006, 08:26 AM

This is a short Vent, I just need to say it to someone so I can rid myself of bad energy and focus on making today a fun birthday for my oldest son.

My mother is a *itch! Always has been, always will be. She is blaming me for having a stroke! She actually *believes* I somehow managed to have a stroke, on purpose, for sympathy!! AUGH! This is the woman who wonders why I never visit her. Go figure. She is abusive, not so much physically anymore, just mentally, and completely narcissistic. Gee, why on earth would I want to keep myself and my children away from her?

It really sucks not having a the support of a parent. Parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally, apparently she never received that memo. Why, after 37 years, do I keep getting surprised by her behaviour?
Whew, I feel somewhat better venting. Thanks to anyone who read this.

**KnottedYet** · 10-01-2006, 08:37 AM

BMo3 - that so totally sucks. I mean really really sucks!

Dump that bad energy here on TD, it will evaporate away, and have a lovely time with your son's birthday!

(and hey, can you teach me that trick of doing medical things to yourself on purpose? Cuz "the girls" are starting to sag a bit, and I'd like to get a little lift into them by sheer willpower.)

**salsabike** · 10-01-2006, 08:41 AM

Hey, BMO3, my best friend has a mother much like this. My friend is one of the smartest, wisest, funniest, most compassionate, grown-up people I know. There is something really missing from her mother, who is just awful and always has been. I think I said before in TD that good people don't always get the parents they deserve. It still surprises her too after all this time. Every great once in a while she has a session or two with a great therapist she's known for years just to get refreshers in how to defend her heart and gut against a mother who's a narcissistic, mean, sociopath. So know you are not alone. It's not fair and you don't deserve it. But you are in excellent company--there are other wonderful women out there who have to try to deal with this. She did it by making her own little family--wonderful husband and son--into the happiest, sanest, and best little group, and by surrounding herself with good friends.

**Veronica** · 10-01-2006, 08:48 AM

Your mom is an idiot Bmo3. Who would want to have a stroke? Geez...

Enjoy your day with your family.

V.

Kitsune06 · 10-01-2006, 08:53 AM

BMo3- I hear you... loud and clear. My mom's pretty similar in those respects... don't let it get you down. We all know better, and if that's the path of thinking that she insists on taking, then there's little we can do but know how wrong it is and keep our chins up. (And she wonders why I moved 2000 miles away as soon as I was 18?)

Hang in there, we're pullin' for ya.

(BTW... i'm with Knot, just... incase your mom is right. The ladies aren't going anywhere, but if I could get my heart to keep a decent rhythm and all my joints not not be so crackly and noisy, I'd be thrilled. ...and well... for future use on the ladies just in case an A can actually be affected by gravity.

)

**chickwhorips** · 10-01-2006, 09:01 AM

lise - good luck on the date and 1/2 marathon. love the shirt too.

BMof3 - that is such bull whooie! she needs a good swift kick in the shin. how rediculous can she be?

kit - still holding to the theory of a new job.

i am off to town (aka anchorage) today. get a few days off from cooking, i get to eat out! woo hoo! its sad when you have planned out where you are going to eat out before anything else. have a bunch of dr and dentist appointments to get to too. hopefully nothing is running behind. the joys of running around in town for a couple of days. its never relaxing. ack! and traffic! glad i'm not driving.

everyone have a great week and i'll catch up with ya'll later in the week.

**maillotpois** · 10-01-2006, 08:58 AM

Originally Posted by Bikingmomof3

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My mother is a *itch! Always has been, always will be. She is blaming me for having a stroke! She actually *believes* I somehow managed to have a stroke, on purpose, for sympathy!! AUGH! This is the woman who wonders why I never visit her. Go figure. She is abusive, not so much physically anymore, just mentally, and completely narcissistic. Gee, why on earth would I want to keep myself and my children away from her?

It really sucks not having a the support of a parent. Parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally, apparently she never received that memo. Why, after 37 years, do I keep getting surprised by her behaviour?
Whew, I feel somewhat better venting. Thanks to anyone who read this.

Oh my god - is your mother my mother by any chance??? Hugs to you. But seriously, that is somthing my mother would do - and the whole emotionally abusive narcissism thing. Wow. For example, her drug OD during my second year of law school being one of her cries for attention. Oh, and the irrational and scary screaming fit at me in a restaurant in front of my fiance and a dear friend of hers right before my wedding. We're getting along a lot better now, but she lives on the other side of the continent and is better medicated.

You know this, but remember, this is NOT her problem. This is YOUR body and YOUR legitimate medical issue which YOU did not create. Go hug your boys. Part of the struggle with a parent like that is not passing it down the line. It sounds like you are a fantastic mom and you have been through a lot. Seriously, go hug your boys and take them outside to play and don't think about your mom if you can help it.

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