Wow, roadies are a-holes...who knew?

[mimitabby]

what Regina said.
However, the guy puffing and panting up the hilll probably didn't want to talk to ANYONE!

[jobob]

This might come as a surprise - it did to me - but some of the rudest roadies I've ever encountered were women. More specifically, two or more women riding together in matching full-zoot team kits.

Maybe it makes more of an impression on me than similar behavior from men because I've pretty much come to expect it from men .

[GLC1968]

because I've pretty much come to expect it from men .

No kidding. You'd think I wouldn't be so suprised.

I think the part that hit me the hardest was that when I was on my road bike, the same two guys (not the inexperienced ones) waved at me! I'm going to keep a running tab to see if these are just not-nice people, or if the bike had anything to do with it.

[littlegrasshopp]

My DF was a roadie when we met. He wouldn't even wave to ME on my beginner rides!! He's mostly a mountain biker now and I enjoy rides with him much more. He's realized he use to get way to "training" focussed and didn't enjoy what he was doing. Now he cycles and enjoys himself a lot more.

At a recent group trail ride, one of the guys stayed behind with his 6 year old daughter. They road the beginner trails and then played on the small road leading into the park. It's off a great set of roads for cyclists so they get lots of traffic by all bikes types. He started counting the roadies that went by and how many returned waves to his beatiful, cute little girl who was so excited to see others on bikes like her. 65 roadies passed them - not one single wave. He said every single mountain biker waved and several stopped to talk to her about her sweet bike and helmet

I hope it's just mindset.....a lot of the group rides here are so speed focussed and "paceline" focussed that they don't have time to enjoy what they're doing until it's over with. All our mountain bike trails have play areas so you can't get TOO into your time or training mindset!

[GLC1968]

Littlegrasshopp - you reminded me of something...

A couple of weeks ago, DH and I were riding one of our longer training rides. We had just completed about 75 miles and were on our way home. The route home took us past this intersection where two main roads and two major greenways (paved multi-use trails) converge. There is always a lot of car, bike and foot traffic through there. We sailed through the intersection (with the light, of course!) and rode past a young woman on a bike with three young boys behind her. They were all on the sidewalk waiting to cut across the road onto to the trail and I noticed that all of them were wearing helmets (not a common thing for kids around here...unfortunately). As we passed them, two of the boys half-waved at us in a somewhat timid way. DH and I both waved back enthusiasticaly. As I was in the back, I heard them say to each other..."did you see that?! They waved back!!"

What is wrong with our society that three seemingly responsible young riders would be so suprised that two adults on road bikes would wave to them?

It makes me want to ride my road bike more often just so that I can wave at everyone and help dispell this stigma!!

[xeney]

Hmm. I am trying to think how to phrase this so that I don't insult every cyclist everywhere ... I think in general, cyclists can be cliquish. (Maybe it would be better to say that people are cliquish, and cyclists are people?) When my husband and I are out together on our road bikes, the roadies are generally friendly enough. If I am out by myself on my road bike, male roadies are VERY friendly to me, not in an especially creepy way but just friendly. When I'm refilling my water bottle I get a lot of, "Wow, I wish I could get MY wife to ride" chit-chat, and if I'm stopped I get asked if I need a pump, I get hellos and nods and smiles, just general friendliness. But nobody else on the bike trail waves or says hello. The people on cruisers and mountain bikes, the people on old beaters, they just kind of ignore us.

If we are riding our old single-speed conversions, however, the roadies don't talk to us. They don't nod, they don't say hello, I doubt any of them would stop to help me fix a flat in those circumstances. Other people talk to us then, though. A lot of people around here ride bikes, but not everyone rides the same way. If I am riding my mixte around, the guys on fixies behave exactly the way the roadie guys do when I'm on my road bike. But I am pretty sure the fixie guys would not give me the time of day if I were wearing lycra and riding my road bike.

I noticed this a while ago and I try to make it a point to say hi to anyone with whom I make eye contact regardless of what they are riding. A couple of weeks ago when my husband and I were out on our road bikes, I noticed a guy on an old beater bike with a flat, and I offered him my pump, and he seemed completely floored that I had done that.

Exceptions to all generalizations: when I was first riding on my hybrid, trying to keep up with my husband on his road bike, and I was really dumb about trail etiquette, some of the older male roadies we ran into were incredibly nice and encouraging. In general I think the older guys are pretty nice.

[Cassandra_Cain]

GLC - Regina....you two are soooo very correct on this.

I was having a conversation of a similar nature recently. My overriding impression of guys who ride is much like what has been stated....elite, arrogant, pompous, wanna-be's who have absolutely no manners and would never be mistaken for having an ounce of courtesy.

It is really really off-putting because cycling can and should be an activity with a lot of social interaction. I mean here we are riding in a very car-driven society and yet your fellow riders, these guys, will thumb their noses at most everyone else. How very enlightened, not!

How discouraging to people starting out or even those of us like me, who actually enjoy a more moderate ride with conversation from time to time. I can totally see how a newer person would be disgusted with the sport and never even bother - I don't blame them.

I have yet to meet one single exception to this. The only ones who so much as even wave back, say hello, or show any semblance of being friendly are women. Though that isn't always the case.

So the only person I trust to ride with in this city who has class and is genuinely nice is Corsair.

[DDH]

Well I say hi to everyone and if they don't want to wave or say hi back "I just ignore it". It's rude, but hey sometimes people don't hear with wind blowing in their ears or they have their gaze fixed, concentrating and don't see you wave. Who knows.
I think my bike is a road bike with straight bars so if people snub me oh well, "their loss" as far as I am concerned.

Around here though, I don't run into many other riders, but when I do they have been generally friendly back. Maybe not over enthusiasticly so, but friendly none the less.
I'm not a racer or a rider that gets so fixated on my riding that I don't notice others, I am out there to have fun riding my bike and get in shape and hopefully lose some weight. I can understand though others that are training and not wanting their concentration interrupted.
Then there is just the fact that people now a days "a lot of them but not all" are just rude!! I don't like to generalize although I have been known to get frustrated and do it. LOL
Ecspecially with the man thing.

[velocilex]

I've encountered the same phenomenon as GLC1968: roadie guys will wave to me if I'm out on my road bike, but if I'm on the Kona, I may as well not exist. Never mind I may have just ridden a metric century on it. Never mind that they may have bothered to lift a finger off their handlebars the week before. Now, the guys who do this are mainly college guys-- this is the home of the Little 500 and those boys are Very Important. /sarcasm. On this past Sunday a group of three of us older types (with very nice road bikes, I might add) passed a bunch of Little Five roadies setting up for a time trial on a country road. All three of us said "Hi" or "Good Morning" to the nine young men as we rolled by. Not one answered, so I said over my shoulder, "You can say hello. We won't tell." Little brats. I've not encountered snotty women roadies around here mainly because I seldom see women roadies.

But I have to wonder if this attitude is a North American thing. I cycled France for seven weeks earlier this summer on my Kona hybrid that I had modified a little for touring. I never came across a roadie who didn't wave and say "Bonjour"-- often, they waved first. One day, I encountered a group of four roadies with nice kits and gorgeous bikes going in the opposite direction as I was rolling down a country road. All of them enthusiastically waved and hollered "Salut!" (which I thought was great-- Salut is informal, you say it to a buddy or kindred spirit). One of them even said "Hi"-- must have been my helmet that gave me away! The friendliness of the French roadies made it even harder to come back here and deal with the snobbery. However, I still say hello to everyone. If they don't want to acknowledge me that's fine. Maybe I won't acknowledge them when they need help on the side of the road some time.

[mary9761]

I've actually experienced this in different degrees depending on what I was wearing etc. When I first started riding my Navigator, I didn't have the cycling clothes, I wore shorts and tanks/t's whatever I could find that fit. Very few would make eye contact with me.
After I made my own bike gear, the first time I was on a ride, I got a different reaction from riders. Many would smile or at least return a wave or eye contact. When I have stopped to HELP people in street clothes on "beaters" in my full gear, I get GLARES from road bikes and others just because I've stopped to help someone who wasn't dressed "right" or on the "right" kind of bike etc. This has happened more than once so I know it was/is a trend.
I've had minor problems and pulled over and few would even ask if I was ok, most of the time it was walkers etc.
Fast forward to me taking a Trek Pilot 1.2 onto the MONON for a test ride on the MONON, nearly EVERY rider that I waved to/spoke to etc reciprocated. I kicked the chain off while trying to shift gears and the chain was in a strange position, since it wasn't my bike, I was trying to be VERY careful not to scratch it. Several riders did pass me, but I did have a guy on a road bike stop to help me put the chain back on correctly.
I know from experience that partly due to the fact road bikes are MUCH faster than I am, I'm going to be riding solo. Some are at least friendly on club rides (now that I've been coming for a year regardless of my NOT being on a road bike) but there are still some that have laughed in my face for not being on a road bike.
I treat people the way I'd like to be treated or have someone in my family treated if they were on the trails/roads etc. I have no control over how others were raised or choose to behave.