Central Oregon

[Irulan]

Originally posted by smurfalicious
Hey, thanks I'll have to get some info for the Hellsburrito women's clinic.

hopefully that's comimg up today

I've kinda cruised the CO bike websites, but there's such an obnoxious tragically hip/ pretentious yuppy thing around here. One bike shop straight up scoffed at me because I didn't want a "high end" bike. Serves them, I ended up with an $1100 dollar bike, which is that stores lowest price range. Bah!

F*** 'em, ask 'em if they'd rather you ride a Costco Magma. Life's what' you make of it. the folks I know who like to do trail work are pretty unpretentious and see the big picture. I mean, not everyone is a testosterone poisoned poser. There may some nice people out there who just want to ride. Look for club sponsored beginner's rides, or women's rides, or join and start them up yourself.

Me- how I met most of my gal-crew was just talking to everyone, I mean everyone about how I liked to ride. Evnetually, with some fits and starts, I'v got a core group of about 6 women to draw from. We dont' really have any mtb clubs in my area or I'd do what I suggest to you

I definately do have some issues riding with my hunny. It's cool though, we're still learning about each other. My fear of falling in to water makes no sense seeing as how he knows I've been hunting for somewhere local to lap swim! He just doesn't understand that girls don't respond to the tough love crap that his expert class son does. I've explained this to him, and that if he expects me to help recruit and train women for the high school mtn bike team he best not pull crap like that with *my* girls. Girls shut down when treated like that.

I have ground rules with my hubby. Like
"you will not give me ANY tips on this ride unless I ask for them". "you will wait at all junctions" "I don't have to ride anything I don't feel comfortable riding and you are not going to comment on it" etc.

It just kinda sucked because the rule has always been that he won't take me down anything I can't do. Then we get through this super rocky crud and I'm bawling because I paniced and nearly put myself in the river. He says, "Well, I kinda expected you to walk that." Thanks, tell me that before I feel like a failure for doing so.

Who put him in charge? You pick the route for a change, and lay the ground rules. I realize I don't know you, and that the "riding with spouse who is better than you" syndrome is really tough to deal with. I found that laying ground rules with mine really helped when I was a beginner. I quit riding with him for about two years because it was so hard to deal with for me. My solution was to work to find other women to ride with, and to take women's skills clinics.


~irulan