i have a cheapo fix that might help you at least with the brakes. They make these little levers that you can put on your bars... then you don't have to reach the hoods to get to the brakes. I know what you're going through; it is awful how hard it is for gals to find a bike that they can ride comfortably!

Yes, i got the Eva handlebars... if they didn't do the trick i was going to get
the little levers..