I had the exact same problem! I kept looking at pics of women on road bikes on TE, and most have the seat the same height as the bars, and mine was lower, so I went into the lbs today and came home with an adjustable stem. I angled it so that the seat is even with the bars. Ahhhhhh....made all the difference! I feel more in control of the bike, also. The adjustable stem is a tad heavier, but they didn't have any that angled up enough. Good luck! As they say on these forums, when you get it right, you'll know.