Quote Originally Posted by emily_in_nc
I would recommend changing to a longer stem (or flipping yours over if it's flat rather than angled up) so that your bars are the same height as - or no more than 1" below - your saddle. That seems to be the most common position for female road riders who don't race. Men can have a lower handlebar because they typically have longer arms. I can ride a road bike with bars equal to saddle height very comfortably but would have upper body problems if my bars were much below my saddle.

Your LBS can help you with the stem. Good luck!

Emily
I agree with Emily....except be sure to understand that she means a TALLER/HIGHER stem, not a "longer" stem, which would actually put MORE weight on your hands. Speaking of that- you might want to consider a taller and SHORTER stem (ask your LBS to explain this seeming contradiction if you are totoally confused now). I changed last week to a shorter stem (which brought my handelbsars closer to me), and it really helped eliminate the "falling onto my hands" feeling. And yes, having your bars more similar to the height of your seat may help you be more comfortable.