kpc, sorry to hear about your loss.

I had an old friend who I didn't see often, and one time I ran into him and he said, "You look great (ie. THIN), what's wrong?" I think that it's a 50/50 thing. Some people eat and gain weight when they're down, and others don't eat. For just the average 'blues', I eat. When it's a serious depression, I stop eating. I've gained about 15 lbs. since going through an awful divorce. I must be happy!