I got a bike! I ended up NOT getting a pilot becasue I rode the Lemond Tourmalet WSD and fell in love with it(her?)
This bike seems to be in between the pilot and more traditional road bikes. Though it isn't as upright as the pilot, I am "up" enough to feel comfortable. Now I know what everyone means when they say when you find the right bike you know
BTW. Cranky bike shop owner wll be glad to know i have a bike where my legs are behind the crank but from a nicer shop! I feel like the place I got it from wanted me to find the best bike for me, not make a point!
Thanks to everyone for all of your help/ideas. I love this forum!