In the first place, and getting back to your original post -- you can thank our friendly media (movies, books, magazines, TV, music, the whole shebang) for making everyone think that we're not normal if we are not having sex 3.2 times per week!! As you can see from these postings, it is simply not true for most normal couples!!

I'm not even going to talk about how the two of you need to talk, see your doctor, etc., etc. Everyone is right on with that stuff.

You said at one point that you wouldn't even know how to get it started now because you haven't done it in so long (and believe me, 4 months is by no means any kind of record!) Try this: light a couple of candles in the bedroom and put on some music. Go find him, take his hand and just lead him through the house in that direction. If he starts to ask what's going on, just "shhhh" him and keep walking. When you get to your destination and kiss him, it's a done deal. Tada! The ice is broken.

Many posts have mentioned that for us women, it's almost all a mental thing, and I fully believe that! Have you read Mars/Venus? The guy who wrote that knows it, too. We need the whole emotional stimulation thing, men don't. All they need is the visual and they are on their way. CBF probably needs to kick it up a notch in that department, too, wooing you the way he used to, being romantic, noticing how attractive you are, etc. They forget. What do YOU like? Sex in the morning better than at night? Was it fun to go parking way back when? Do you find camping kind of sexy? Whatever it is, write it down on slips of paper and make a game out of it once a week -- pull a piece of paper out of the jar and tell him "I want to do this." Oh, I guarantee he'll be racing for the sleeping bag. You both win.

Bottom line, I'm divorced, I thought there was something wrong with me, too. I'm single now and can tell you that it's still there, it just didn't get the proper care and feeding for a while there!

Good luck!