Obsessive?

[Kalidurga]

Most people at some point find something that they become passionate about. For a short while, it may very well become the most important thing in her/his life. The thing to be remembered by that person's loved ones, though, is that one day the same thing could happen to them. When and if it does, they'd want the person in question to understand and be happy that they've found something they love so much, wouldn't they?

It's great that you have the kind of relationship with your son in which he wants to be with you. If he becomes a typical teen as he grows up, that could certainly change! In the meantime, though, I would hope that your family can realize that you're excited about your new bike and the sport of cycling and that as that excitement levels out, you'll come back to them.

[midgetcycler]

Is it possible to include them in the cycling? Or are they totally not interested? It could be something they up enjoying as much as you do and then you could make part of your cycling time "family cycling time."

By organized rides are you talking charity rides or neighborhood group rides? Can they join in on those too? Most charity rides have "family discounts" because the price does get quite steep if 4 people from the same family want to join in the fun.

It sounds like a family meeting is in order. I think everyone would benefit from openly discussing their feelings AND possible solutions to the situation. As long as the feeling of the discussion stays on "what do we need to do to keep this family happy" rather than how each person feels slighted by the other, it should be a very constructive meeting that everyone comes out of feeling a little bit better.

Good luck!

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

I second what spokewench said. Sit down and talk with them about how everyone needs their own time and their own passion in their life, especially if it is something that is good for them. Maybe they are just afraid that you are going to be spending less and less time with them. Maybe you can all agree on a compromise schedule that you can all be happy with. The solution has to be a compromise, not go all one person's way.

[lauraelmore1033]

I think it is a positive thing that your son has the interior resources to identify something that concerns him and that he felt secure enough to articulate it to you, rather than "acting out". I think that is an indication that mom is doing really well in the mothering department.

[Cassandra_Cain]

here-here! to what Lisa and Spokewench both mentioned.

You really do need your alone time and your own interests. Not just for fun but just for your sanity and to stay healthy as well as upbeat. You should be excited about things, why not? having a family should not preclude you from that!

I bet if you talk about it with your loved ones that an understanding can be reached.