Is this my attitude?

[susiej]

My husband did this too, and it aggravated the daylights out of me because I wanted to ride with him!

In about two years, you can probably use our solution too: Make him carry your toddler on (or after) his bike. (Actually, I wish we had a trailer -- safer if the bike falls.) He'll be pulling an extra 20 to 30 pounds. If you REALLY want to slow him down, make sure the trailer/bike seat only fits the half-broken mountain bike with knobby wheels.

I don't think it's your attitude. In any relationship, casual or intimate, everyone has to balance what's important to all members.

SJ

[Dianyla]

Get him a rear-view mirror. Seriously. I've been in the position of riding with someone slower than I and it's impossible for them to not feel pressured every time I looked back to make sure they're still back there. It's hard enough to avoid feeling this just with friends, let alone with a significant other. But now that I have a rear-view mirror I can just take a surreptitious peek backwards and they don't feel harried.

Besides, rear-view mirrors are just good safety equipment to have, anyway.