Cheri,
Four months is nothing. DH and I have been together for 8 years. The first year was great, we'd have weekends where we never got out of bed . . . Then that initial spark faded. Well, it completely went out. We'd go as long as 10 months without anything. We have a fantastic relationship in that we hardly ever fight, and when we do its in the form of civil discussion, not yelling and cursing. We communicate well and are truly best friends. For me, it was (and still is) about pressure. I felt like I should be doing this for him, he's so good to me, he deserves it, but then I'd get all nervous, which absolutely kills the sex drvie. We'd go out to a special dinner for either of our birthdays, or valentine's, whatever, and then I'd feel this pressure that we were expected to have sex. In addition to the pressure, having a belly full of food really just made me want to sleep. It sounds to me like if you're stressing about it, you're putting pressure on yourself, which just makes it even more difficult to get in the mood.

When I first went on BC back in college with ex-BF, I noticed an immediate drop in libido. I complained to Gync, switched pills, and noticed a little improvement, but not back to normal levels. Later, when I tried going off the pill, I had horrible cramps and mood swings, which I'd never had before I went on the pill. I went right back on. Now we're a few months away from trying to get pregnant, so there's no point in trying to switch pills. However, just talking about trying to get pregnant has ignited our sex life again. (I should also mention that after we got married, we hardly left the hotel room for a week). This is the only issue we've talked about but haven't resolved. I suggested getting counseling, which DH was adamantly opposed to. I suggested getting some sort of self help book, he didn't like that idea either, although I was about to go do that on my own before the getting-pregnant discussions started and solved the problem. So in summary, I don't have any great advice for you, other than try not to worry about it. The more you worry, the more it becomes an issue (valid medical issues aside). Even through our longest droughts, going on vacation always seemed to be the best antidote. My best recommendation would be a romantic weekend away for two (But NO pressure!!!) Good luck!