Cherinyc,

I certainly wish you a lot of luck. I strongly believe that sex is one of the most important part of the relationship, no matter what people say about romance. I also firmly believe in communicating. I certainly hope that your BF and you have a good way of talking openly and honestly with each other. MY DH and I can discuss absolutely anything, our thoughts, desires, fantacies, fears. This what makes our live, both physical and emotional, very solid. And if something goes wrong, we can talk about it as well. I hope that you can do the same. And please do not blame each other for anything. You need to figure out for both of you what makes you both happy, makes you who you are, and what you are both missing. It is a two-way street. Just share and experiment.

Sincerely good luck.