OT: Men mean well sometimes.

[tulip]

Men mean well sometimes... but dang... they can be so dense.

And sometimes we set them up to fail...miserably, and we are the ones who end up getting hurt. The best way to avoid that is to 1) not give a damn what they think, or 2) don't set them up to say things that we are sensitive about.

You have the power...now go have a nice bike ride, okay? You are strong and beautiful!

[Geonz]

This is true ... "Honey, does this make my butt look fat?"
(I like "does this bike make my butt look fast?" much better...)

[salsabike]

Exactly what geonz and tulip said. Do not discuss these things with guys. They don't speak this language well.

[Bikingmomof3]

Exactly what geonz and tulip said. Do not discuss these things with guys. They don't speak this language well.

I must agree as well. You are only 33, you are young. I turned 37 in June.

[bouncybouncy]

"does this bike make my butt look fast?"

YOU JUST MADE MY DAY!!!!

the in-laws are in town and my precious bubbled-butt-poochied-tummy husband has been "GIDDY"...yes you heard correctly...giddy!
men are interesting creatures who never seem to amaze me...you sound like you were able to hear beyond his words and know he only meant to say something to try and make you feel better but just did not know how to spit it out...sometimes i am accused as being too forgiving of what he says but for anyone to put up with my moods (and ladies they are not pretty) and mind you i am not shakespear with words either...

anyway...

[Lise]

This makes me think of a study when men were asked to guess the # of calories in a serving of food. They made insanely wrong wild guesses. They didn't have any idea what the numbers meant, because it wasn't important to them! So...KSH...try not to take it too personally. Ask him how many calories there are in an apple Although I doubt that particular guy will be offering you any numbers any time soon.

Happy (almost) birthdy, btw. L.

[Pascale]

One thing I learned from men (one in particular who always speaks his mind) is never tell a man a problem if you don't want him to try to solve it - cuz that's what they are programmed to do.

As women, we tend to verbalize issues, not necessarily looking for solutions - just to vent. Men totally do not get this concept....ok, most men (I'd hate to get in trouble for painting with a broad brush stroke).

Yeah, it really reduces the amount of conversation between me and hubby... LOL

[spokewench]

I've learned that if you wear a push up bra the guys won't even notice a wrinkle or two on your face!

[KSH]

Well, thanks for all the positive comments. I do appreciate it.

Trust me... I'm not THAT upset about it. I'm really an easy going gal who lets a man get away with a lot (not cheating, but you know what I mean)... I don't typically get irked at the small stuff.

And, I didn't ASK for my age to be guessed. I stopped that a long time ago. Either 1) they guess really low to compliment you... or 2) guess your age... either way, it's not good. So, I don't bring my age up.

I know they mean well. It's from a good spot... I know that. I just though it was funny how my boyfriend thought working out/losing weight (HA! like that is going to happen!) would fix my wrinkles somehow?

Of course, this is coming from a 28 year old man (yes, he's 5 years younger than me- but he acts like he's 40).

Oh well... men will be men. And if it's the worse thing I have to complain about... with my man... then it's not that bad.

[Nanci]

BF once told me "Well, you're no beauty queen." French ex BF told me my experiment with thong underwear made me look like a Sumo wrestler. Oh, he's also the one that told me I smell like tuna (after eating it) and couldn't understand why that was offensive. And then started calling me his Big Tuna. And when I didn't like being called a big anything, then started calling me his Little Feather, but in a sort of sarcastic way. I haven't had a complimentary BF in a long time...

Edited: it was beauty queen, not fashion model.

[mimitabby]

KSH,
I think your boyfriend meant you would look younger by firming up and stuff; he probably didn't think it would actually change your wrinkles.

and the guy who misjudged your age probably didn't even notice your wrinkles.. A lot of people (myself included) are pretty bad at guessing age.
So I do what a lot of folks do; i figure out how old someone is and then subtract 10 years so if they ask i will at least seem complementary; but i have NO IDEA!
even with little kids!