Well, my quest for "THE saddle" is still on. Just to list the saddles I tried :
1) serfas RX
2) Selle Smp women's version
3) Selle SMP men's version
4) Specialized Jett ( in the mail)

I loved the fact that Sell SMP didn't give me any pain problems with my sit bones or pubic bone ( which was the case with serfas) . However, there is some major chafing problem that seems to be happening with this saddle ( both mens and women's version) I bought mens really really hoping that because it's a little narrower it will not chafe me. But NO on my last ride I came home and the skin in my the biking creast was burning on fire, in one place it chafed me raw. I do put tons of lubricant ( bag balm, body glide or chamois butt'r) Still the problem occurs.
I figured that maybe even men's version too wide for me ( i measure 125 mm), so I ordered Specialized Jett saddle couple of days ago. But since Selle SMP is the only saddle so far that gave me no pain I still want to figure out a way we will work together :-)
BTW it happened with 2 different short brands ( sugoi lucky short and shebeest SSS short). While sitting I try to push my butt as far back as possible so my sit bones are fully supported and it seems that because SelleSMP is sloped it sort of pulls on my shorts and chafes me. Well anyway, anyone who had the same problem - any solutions?