I have only used low end Bontrager bars so I have no recommendation. For me the important thing has been having compact bars. I don't think my hands are small for a woman but they are small enough to need the compact geometry.

On my new gravel bike, the shifters are huge. I am told this is due to having disc brakes. The reach to the bars is fine with the stock 90mm stem, but I can't rest my hands on the hoods comfortably because the shifters are so long. I am going to try a shorter stem, but that might make things feel cramped when my hands are on the tops of the bars while riding uphill. So if you have not used Di2 shifters before, find out how long they will protrude from the bars relative to shifters you have used, in case they are different enough to affect your reach.