Thanks for all the help!!! I know I'll find something in here that will work.
Here are more details for those that asked. It is not an ingrown hair, it is not "open", it lives on my butt in the crease I refer to as the "Twinkie" part. It is created by my sit-bone on my saddle, so it's far enough away from my front parts that I call it my butt area. Someone mentioned that a harder saddle helped for them, but I already have a fairly hard saddle, so I'm thinking of trying a new one. Either a Butterfly or one of my sister-in-law's.
I have been able to stop it from getting worse by putting 2% hydrocortisone on it with a bandaid. And then sometimes antibiotic cream. It is not so bad that I can't ride, but after 60-70 miles it is fairly uncomfortable and takes a couple days to settle. I have had it about two months and it would probably go away if I was off the saddle for 3? weeks, but that is a depressing amount of time to wait and I'm not willing. Yet.
So.... on with more gory details; it does not have a head on it, it is kinda purple, and seems like it has a harder part in the center but not as hard as the "vein" example above. I did try poking it with a needle one night. It bled. It was a little better. But did not go away. There, I have admitted it.
I am going with the warm compresses for now and continue to keep it clean and dry.
I have never been on a forum before, so forgive me if I am new to forum etiquette. Thank again.