Crankin, one thought I had about your bike club folks who are friendly but not actively seeking socializing outside of the club rides, etc. is that there seem to be a lot of folks around like DH and me -- introverts who are very friendly during rides but who get most our social needs met that way and then don't feel the need for more socializing in the evening or off the bike. I think a lot of introverts are drawn to cycling, as it's an individual sport rather than a team sport, and especially those who love to ride alone and get lost in their thoughts are introverts, more often than not.

So in all likelihood, it's not you, it's them.

I wish I loved to have people over and to entertain. To me it's about on par with a dental visit, I kid you not!