Quote Originally Posted by nanaterry View Post
I went to the bike store a couple of times when I first got my bike and they just kept saying my sit bones needed to just toughen up, so I just thought I was being a baby.
They are wrong!!

It is common to be a bit sore around the sit bones when you first start cycling, or after you've taken a break from cycling for a while. But for the distances you ride, that soreness is the not the issue.

In addition to the chafing, do you have other problems with pain? For example, soreness (feeling like you're bruised) in front of your sit bones or between your legs (I think that's the pubic bone? Wahine is that right?) can indicate the saddle is too narrow (unlikely in your case) or that it's too far back, so that too much of your weight is on the nose of the saddle. Feeling numb/too much pressure can indicate that the saddle is too padded, the chamois is too thick or the saddle is too high.