I've had short hair for about 12 years. I have let the spikey top grow out, as I do look better with some length on the top and side bangs. I am totally indebted to my products and a flat iron for this, as I have the most horrible, frizzy, twisty, bendy, but not curly hair. Since it's short, it really doesn't take me long. So no more wash and wear, but it's worth it.
I do not think long hair is flattering at all on most people over 45, but, too each her own. I've dealt with difficult hair all of my life, and that's why I got perms for like 20 years.