Get a second opinion from a doctor who does not have a financial stake in your potential surgery.

I would absolutely fly my mom out. (Well, not my mom specifically because we don't get along, but you get the picture.)

Untill you get good with crutches, to get up stairs, turn around, sit down and scoot yourself up. Does this surgery require general anesthesia? Three flights of stairs is going to suck. Would you consider staying with a friend that night? My husband had two orthopedic surgeries a few years ago, and both times getting him up 2 steps and as far as the couch was quite an ordeal. I can't lift him, so he almost spent a night on the kitchen floor!