Don't go.
He doesn't want to see you. The ex-wife wants it. These calls to your answering machine are about HER needs. Not yours. Not his.
He made his choices. You made yours.
He's dying... so what? Everyone dies eventually. Nothing for you to feel guilty about.
He's not part of your life. He's just a sperm donor you got some genes from.
ETA: Don't write a letter and forgive him to give him peace. Only do it if it will give you peace. And you know darn well the ex wife is going to become dependent on you if you get involved at all. She's still dependent on him. He provided her with a home. After he dies, are you going to put the trailer in your back yard and let her live there with you?
Last edited by KnottedYet; 11-11-2011 at 06:00 PM.
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