My mother was very secretive about a lot of things. It took a long time to figure out that sex was healthy and normal, not something shameful that had to be avoided. I know why she didn't tell me things, but some things I didn't find out until after her death. Learning her secrets made things make more sense. I won't share them here, but our mother's have histories, love, and pain that we can't imagine. So sometimes, when they seem crazy, it's from that.