When people say something that upsets you...

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Last night I was at an event (a contra dance) and I was asked to announce an upcoming event (my birthday party, a musical event in a public venue, to collect food for the community food bank). The party will take place on the same night at as the next dance, about 2 blocks away.

I could have, and probably should have, mentioned it would no doubt be going on after the dance, and people were welcome to come by afterwards, but in the moment, I didn't make that point. I'm actually very excited that I might be able to really collect a lot of food donations and do something very positive for the community instead of doing something more selfish....

After the dance one of the other musicians turned to me, put his hand on my shoulder and criticized me very directly for announcing an event in conflict with the dance. Then having made his point, he turned away and packed up his fiddle and that was that.

I might add that many of the other contra dance musicians will be at the party.

I was tired, and he had a point, but his patronizing attitude and tone left me seething and irritated as I came home, and even this morning still.

My defensive self toyed with sending him a note about it to follow up and say yes, you had a good point, but people can certainly come by after the dance. But I suppose the best thing is to just let it go.... isn't it??