Quality of life & making wrong decision for some

[Trek420]

I don't think he had children. If he had a girlfriend somewhere, he didn't mention her. (Though I kept mentioning my partner.)

There are any one of a number of reasons he might not mention his relationships including yet not limited to:

being a widow and not wanting to discuss the pain of losing a wife or dare we say husband because it's too painful. Maybe that person was why he moved there and now lives alone. Is it possible by our judging others for any reason including location we sometimes miss an opportunity to create community and support?

divorce from, see above.

a new relationship starting but not sure where it's going and you being a stranger his not wanting to say he lives alone but "jeepers I just met this gal or dare we say ... " see above.

As I "bat for the other team" I'm not sure of what are probably a slew of reasons a man might not state his relationship status to someone he just met. But even and especially those who "live alone" do need to form/build community. Instead of judging one should seek to reach out.

So it must be the lure of flipping land one day and making money that might have been the real draw. Either he was not happy or he was a smooth talker.

I don't think anyone is flipping these days. I don't know the market up north but it's tanked here. Sounds like regardless of why he moved there or buying that home he may be mulling the choices to increase his quality of life including but not limited to; job closer to home or part time, or find the local cycling near his home.

Since I was not there and don't know what I'd say in a similar occurance but hope that I would have intuited what's on his mind and suggested local info that could help him, rides nearby he can do, rides nearby work even he might do on a lunchtime ride, companies that may be hiring.

When I bought while many of my coworkers were getting McMansions in Tracy, Stockton (hour commute each way) with those magic loans I chose a small, fixer upper, condo near public transportation options . It took a year to find a safe bike route (the bridge is not signed). Would that I had met a local at a nearby coffee shop, expressed that I missed my former easy commute and had someone say "oh, you could do this".

But then it took me almost that long in weekend rides to find that "yes, there are local coffee shops here too".