Body Drama?

[shootingstar]

Wow, can't imagine having good friends who asked me about my weight, etc. each time they saw me or even occasionally ask.

They would not be my friends ...by nature. My face-to-face, close friends care about their weight but we don't talk much about it because we so seldom see each other that we must talk about other priority stuff. I am aware each of these long-time friends..over 25 yr. long friendships, taken up certain regular forms of exercise, they try to eat healthy, not perfect.

Hey folks, these face-to-face friends know I lost a sister to suicide. Do you think by now they would be dumb-critical (of me), enough to do that to me? Such women just remain distant acquaintances to me.

Would these friends still do this physical once-over to you as a friend if you lost a sister the way I did?? Think about it, how ...wrong and in a way, abit self-centred of them if they were still physique comparing under those circumstances...it's more a reflection of their own insecurities vs. about anyone else's body image. I know I've chosen an extreme example, but just to highlight..how inappropriate of supposedly a "good" friend -- at any time. A true friendship is not some sort of keeping-up-with-the-Joneses game.