A friend told me his parents brought plots overlooking the house they built together. It sounds nice to have something mapped out in advance and not just in a rush.

After my grandmother was buried, her sister who couldn't make it to the furneral, requested photos of her grave and DH's grandma has LOTS of photos of her husbands furneral, including the open coffin.

Once a year the family visits his grave site and they all stand and have photos around the headstone. Different cultures, beliefs etc. I think at least it is nice that he is remembered in a special way.