Most of the time when things piss us off, we're either taking things too personally, or projecting motives that we have no way of knowing. Both of which my mother is really good at and which I try to ferret out of my own personality because of it. So when I read some of these complaints, I just think, "Why do you care? Don't listen to everything you hear. It's not about you. That person is not directing their behavior at you, so why get worked up over it?"

Of course, some people are just being rude, and not considering how their actions affect others. I try to take a look in the mirror to see how I could have helped or fixed or mitigated the situation, before I stew or complain about it.

Karen