I'm falling apart

[Zen]

My mother is 73 with a whole page of health problems and a pill to "fix" every one of them. ...She's not going to change...

your mother belongs to a different generation. She most likely wasn't encouraged to participate in sports.

... takes it personal if we won't eat a huge piece of her cake.

Food=Love

It's frustrating watching people you love ignore the obvious and not do anything to change their situation.

Sometimes you just have to accept things for the way they are.